When you feel mad, upset, out-of-sorts, off balance, not-yourself, etc., there is only one reason why:  You are lying to yourself.

You are holding an idea in your mind, that is not true, and/or taking an action you don't believe in.  When we lie to ourselves, we feel crummy, because it is unhealthy to lie to ourselves.

When you start to embrace this concept, it can transform your life.  Not only can you learn to be happier, but you can learn to think and act in ways that bring you the exact things you actually DO want and are in alignment with You.   You can also use your built in guidance system to know what the truth actually is!

Lies often include these words/phrases:

• I can't
• I don't
• I should/shouldn't
• They should/shouldn't
• I don't know
• Impossible

If you find these words in your thoughts, that can confirm things for you, but the ultimate confirmation is how you feel.  If it feels like sh*t, it is bullsh*t.

When you discover your lie, you can turn it around to:

• Discover the truth and a better way to focus
• Function in a way that you'll get what you want
• Feel better (which is your only responsibility on this Earth)

If you are struggling with feeling bad, you are probably also struggling with external conditions in your life.  If you are ready for change, I encourage you to learn more about this concept.  I suggest any of the following resources:

• The Secret/Law of Attraction
• Abraham-Hicks Material
• The Course in Miracles
• Loving What Is
  
• Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting

Steps to turn things around:

• Notice you feel bad
• Observe what you are thinking, write it down
• Write down the opposite, know that your body is telling you that is the actual truth
• Start focusing on that truth

There is nothing in your life that can not be made better via this process.  (Hint: Truth=Healing=Love=Transformation.)

We've all been there.  Overwhelm.  Too much to do, certainly too much to try and control.  Yet, if we are in overwhelm, we are trying to control too much, consider too much, do too much at once.

Yet, that often gets us into a state wherein we don't do anything.  Then, the situation that feels overwhelming usually grows.   No wonder we get stuck!

Sometimes, we are so overwhelmed, we have no idea where to start.  Here's my thought.  Start anywhere!  Start where you are!

Steps:

Get yourself as centered as possible.

Summarize for yourself the current, in the moment conditions (e.g., My taxes are not done.  They need to be done.  I'm sitting in my office feeling overwhelmed.)

Challenge yourself to think of three, and three only *small* things you could do that are positive action steps, without thinking of what would come next.  (e.g.  1. Call an accountant.  2. Gather receipts from last year.  3.Download the tax forms)

Choose one action step and do it, with no further thought or debate.

You'll immediately feel better, and have made progress in tackling your situation.

I'll be interviewed today as part of Coach Sheri Hoff's free Your Path to Success telesummit!

We'll be discussing Vision, Voice and Vocation…being your higher self and having an amazing career that grows from You.

Hope you can join us…

See you soon!

I'll be speaking as part of a free webconference, FWI's Global Accountability Day, June 25th, 2010.

You can sign-up for free here.

More and more, it is my objective to live in an integrated way.  I want what I do every day to be fulfilling, and drawing on the best aspects of myself.  Coaching gives me a wonderful opportunity to do that!

How about you?  Do you want your work to be fulfilling?  Do you want to bring the best parts of you to the problems at hand?  Do you want your work to make a difference, while at the same time making you feel great?

I'm going to talk about Voice and Vision and how they come together to make your ideal Vocation.

If you want to be more of the real you, I hope you'll join us!

BP had 97% of the willful safety violations in the industry.  They clearly had a systemic problem with safety.

Continuing to operate in that fashion, I believe, was a crime and we're just beginning to experience the results of that criminal activity.

The criminal activity even continues to this moment!  Working on PR campaigns.  Hiring security to block reporters from the Gulf.  Really?  Is that the best use of your time and resources right now?  No time to send the cash for the berms, but time to CYA?  Is that really OK with us?  Who would like to raise their hand and say that is OK?

We can all see where this is headed.  The government is going to seize BP's assets.  They can bring in a consortium of the other oil companies to help run the equipment if they need to.

The question is, how long are they going to let BP continue to muck about, spending less than 100% of their efforts on fixing this, before the government (the people) steps in and makes sure 100% of time and resources are pointed directly at the problem?  Every day lost is another beach, thousands of creatures, millions of dollars in economic impact.

Let's look ahead, see where this is headed, and take this deadly seriously.  This is a deadly serious problem.

Great Movie:

Fierce Light - When Spirit Meets Action (www.fiercelight.org, trailer below.)

If you are an aware person, awakening to truth, and opening your heart, I think this movie will speak to you.

Wow, it is counter-intuitive, or at least counter-culture, but we get further ahead by forgiving ourselves for our mistakes/problems/imperfections rather than doubling-down on them by being hard on ourselves.

A new study around procrastination supports this:

Wohl et al. (2010) found that students that forgave themselves for procrastinating around an exam experienced less procrastination for the next test.

What are you hard on yourself about…It is helping you?  Especially when gauged as to long term benefits?

A big part of my coaching ends up being helping people get past the upset about what is "wrong" about themselves, loving themselves for who they are, and thereby naturally encouraging their own growth.

Some things are so simple, yet so hard.

Have any kind of interpersonal problem?  Any problem involving people at all?   You could probably get some progress by telling the truth.

• Telling the truth to yourself
• Being honest with yourself about what is OK and not OK
• Communicating your truths, in the moment
• Let go of confusing and stopping yourself by trying to analyze the lives and emotions of others

It's really very simple.  Yet, we spend a life time trying to learn it.  If the "big" truths are too hard to tell, try starting in each and every moment telling your "small" truths.

Caveat…If you've been obscuring the truth for a while, there are some things that need to unravel when you start speaking the truth (translation…there can be some drama!)

I experimented with the Sedona Method the other day.

The idea is to feel an emotion, then ask yourself three questions until the emotion doesn't bother you any more.  It is a method for "letting go."

I was feeling a very strong emotion and I started asking myself the three questions:

Could I let it go?

Would I let it go?

When?

The first thing I noticed is that the second I started to get too left-brained and analytical about the questions, I stopped being able to feel the feeling.  So, I really just used the questions as is, without trying to remind myself what I thought they meant or spending too much time analyzing my answers.  Focusing on the questions did seem to keep me centered "in" the feeling.

Soon enough, there was a feeling of release, or say, coming down from a mountain or height of some sort to a more peaceful state as the feeling is let go.  It felt like a very powerful and healing experience.

My take is, the method asks you to use Dr. Seuss type language the rational mind has trouble wrapping itself around.  It keeps you in the flow of emotion while you contemplate letting go.  Then nature takes it's course.

We have a unique opportunity here.  We know an environmental disaster, human-caused, is imminent.  The oil-spill.

Can I also point out, April-20.  The day of the explosion of the rig.  Infamous day for terrorists.  Infamously energetically significant time throughout history along with the 19th.  Waco, Oklahoma City, Hitler's B.D., Columbine, Muhammad's B.D., and the troubled Pope's election, apparently, as I stumbled across a third entry on Google that ends with terrorism and ecological disasters in relation to these dates.  That's a little weird.  That's what we have here:  Terrorism or a man-made ecological disaster (same thing).  All I'm saying is it's pretty weird it happened on the 20th and supposedly no-one knows how.  I don't really care how this happened, and why, though…I only care about what seems right in this moment.  Stopping OIL from DESTROYING an ecosystem.

This is a big moment in human history, and how we respond right now speaks to how much we can be in truth and choose courage for the right reasons.  I do believe that right action, on all levels, by all of us, using whatever means are available to us, can direct our course.