These are all goals that have handles…Things you can grab onto and manipulate and try and improve in your life.

These are also all goals that require you to transform on the inside, in order to see sustained results on the outside.  They also require many different "systems" within you to be functioning well, in order to see the outward results.

Some of these systems include:

• Self-esteem
• Emotional energy management
• Transcending fear/ego
• Opening the heart/accessing core energies
• Positive focus

Sometimes this "internal work" happens under the surface.  You may not even be conscious of it, but shifts that need to happen will happen, in order to support you in your new goal.

Sometimes, the internal work makes itself known, and you come to realize that, for example, in order to reach my external goal of always being at peace with my family, I will have to forgive my parents.

In a way, this is a large part of how all coaching works.  You pick visions/goals to work on that are in alignment with your highest values, and to really see change in those areas, internal work also needs to happen.  All of a sudden all areas of life seem to be running so much more smoothly!

That's why coaching can be so powerful, stealth-style!

It is simply amazing to see a person, already of very high performance, discover whole new levels of satisfaction and fulfillment.  To see that they don't need to suffer they way they've been suffering.  To see that a world of love and connection is wide open to them in a way that they separated themselves from before.  To see that they can enjoy each moment of their lives and perform at whole new levels, simultaneously.

Coaching is about practical results.  My clients get results.  I like to coach in a way that the results almost become a side issue.  The main thing, is the person, and growing into themselves as a true leader.

Even though I've seen this happen hundreds of times, it is no less breathtaking each time.

My Business: What I feel, think, say and do, and where I place my conscious focus

Your Business: What you feel, think, say and do

The Universe's Business: EVERYTHING ELSE.  Outcomes, results, happenings, events.  Not under direct, snap-your-fingers-and-it-happens-without-fail human control.  You may think this is God's business, you may think this is the result of complex systems, you may think it is the winding down of a mechanistic universe, you may think it is the flow of evolution, you may think it is your Higher Self that does the actual reality creation's business.  Whoever or whatever you attribute it to, it is not your business!

The key to not being stressed is to MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. That is also the only way to stay centered in your own wisdom, intuition and heart.  That is the only way to stay in an effective frame of mind.

• If you are confused, you are outside of your own business.
• If you are offended, you are outside of your own business.
• If you are stressed, you are outside of your own business (usually in the Universe's business).
• If you are self-conscious, you are outside of your own business.
• If you are experiencing co-dependency type issues, you are outside of your own business (in someone else's business.)
• What someone else feels is NONE of your business.
• What someone else thinks is NONE of your business.
• What someone else does is NONE of your business.
• What someone else says is NONE of your business.
• Whether you get to work on time is NONE of your business.  (It is your business to attempt to leave on time and drive safely.)
• Whether you get the job or not is NONE of your business.  (It is your business to take smart actions.)

When you are mentally, emotionally or spiritually uncomfortable in any way, get back into your own business.

Inside My Control:  My business

Outside My Control: Your business, the Universe's Business

To apply this principle…Ask yourself anytime you are out of sorts…Am I in my business?  Whose business is this?  What is my business at this moment?

You can also make a list of the things that are bothering you, and determine for each item, whose business it falls under.

Excerpt:  "Ask yourself this key question, “How do I feel most of the time?” If your answer is that you feel anxious, anguished, hurt, depressed, frustrated, and so on, then you have a spiritual disconnect…" Wayne Dyer

Remember, we can define spiritual as connection to something larger than yourself, connection to values and/or connection to Source/God.

This spring, there are LOTS of frogs…Maybe the most I've ever had!   There seems to be a new "bluey"!

He's really more of a teal-y…But if you compare his colour to the chin of his buddy in the lower left, and the moss, he clearly is more blue than green!

Tealy is also pretty camera shy, just like Bluey was.  This is the only shot I have of him.  I do look forward to seeing if I can capture him digitally again soon!

Join me on my Coach Michele Facebook page for updates!

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See you on soon!

Michele

This audio series strikes a delightfully refreshing bridge between reason and mysticism.  An intelligent, rational, practical approach to the most profound spiritual questions and endeavors.

Shinzen has a wonderful ability to communicate deep spiritual/Buddhist meditation concepts and discoveries in a way the "western" mind can comprehend.

I particularly love his penchant for turning spiritual concepts into mathematical formulas (he is a mathematician, scientist, and spiritual teacher)…Here's an example that proves especially helpful:

suffering = pain * resistance

Learning to use this equation to your benefit can be one of the most freeing things you'll ever do for yourself and the world around you.

…And that is only the beginning.  I highly recommend this audio series, available on Amazon.

Shinzen also has a fantasic Q & A section on his website, www.Shinzen.org.

This will appeal to any rational seeker looking to expand their horizons.

Thank-you, Shinzen.

Forgive me, but I'll skip over the all-too-oft used, well, Tiger Woods has a coach, why wouldn't you statements.  That might be one to use with your friends and family, should you feel the need to get them on board with your plans.

Instead, let me focus on the benefits.  I tend to downplay the benefits of coaching when I talk to people, but, for whatever reason, I'm in a different mood today.  I'm going to put it flat out there.

I've seen these benefits time and time again, having coached over 300 people in the last 8 years:

• Feel happier
• Better love life
• Better sex life (no kidding!)
• Better at making decisions
• Better at following through on your own values
• Better at communicating boundaries and needs
• Enjoying your career more
• Making more money
• Less stress
• Better enjoyment of your moments
• Doing more things that are really for you
• Beneficial effects on the people around you, making more contributions
• Feeling like "yourself"
• Being way more productive
• Finally learning to love yourself, and hence others
• More quality time with loved ones
• More quality time period
• Connection with Source/spirit/God/mystery
• Real fulfillment
• Being the real you

That's quite a list, isn't it?  Yet, I could go on, and on, and on.

The actions you perform as a coach are challenging and fun, and it's great to work with brilliant people as they change their lives.  It is still so amazing to me, how effective coaching can be, and how lives, families, companies and communities can be transformed.

Hiring a coach may be a casual decision for some.  It may be a major decision.  Either way, hiring a coach can change everything.  Forever.

Ready?  If you are, I am.

The first issue just came out!  If you are interested in leadership, performance, careers and/or coaching, you couldn't find a better resource.

Congratulations, Kristin, on a beautiful and useful publication.

You are holding an idea in your mind, that is not true, and/or taking an action you don't believe in.  When we lie to ourselves, we feel crummy, because it is unhealthy to lie to ourselves.

When you start to embrace this concept, it can transform your life.  Not only can you learn to be happier, but you can learn to think and act in ways that bring you the exact things you actually DO want and are in alignment with You.   You can also use your built in guidance system to know what the truth actually is!

Lies often include these words/phrases:

• I can't
• I don't
• I should/shouldn't
• They should/shouldn't
• I don't know
• Impossible

If you find these words in your thoughts, that can confirm things for you, but the ultimate confirmation is how you feel.  If it feels like sh*t, it is bullsh*t.

When you discover your lie, you can turn it around to:

• Discover the truth and a better way to focus
• Function in a way that you'll get what you want
• Feel better (which is your only responsibility on this Earth)

If you are struggling with feeling bad, you are probably also struggling with external conditions in your life.  If you are ready for change, I encourage you to learn more about this concept.  I suggest any of the following resources:

• The Secret/Law of Attraction
• Abraham-Hicks Material
• The Course in Miracles
• Loving What Is
  
• Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting

Steps to turn things around:

• Notice you feel bad
• Observe what you are thinking, write it down
• Write down the opposite, know that your body is telling you that is the actual truth
• Start focusing on that truth

There is nothing in your life that can not be made better via this process.  (Hint: Truth=Healing=Love=Transformation.)