Last year I was looking at my frog pond and saw something really weird. A frog’s great big white belly was face-up (I guess that’s what we’d call belly-up!) and it was kind of rolling around in the water. I ran over to see what was going on, and I saw that a great big garter snake had him by the foot under the water. I thrust my hand under the water, grabbed the snake and it let go of the frog.
That spring I had a few more dramas of chasing away snakes, even going toe-to-toe with one big guy that bit me (no big deal) when I tried to get him in a paper bag for transport. Finally, I realized that I needed to forget about the snakes, stop worrying about them, and I did. I didn’t see snakes again that year.
Now, in theory, I got it that nature is nature and a snake is no less deserving of a tasty frog dinner than the frogs are deserving of a tasty fly dinner. But, I still didn’t like the idea of one of “my” frogs getting eaten. I admit it, I am attached to them.
So, the other day, I go out to the pond and see a smallish garter snake, nicely poised at the pond’s edge, ready to strike any frog that appeared. “Aah! A snake”, I yell, and try to grab him and he jumps under the water. There was no way to find him or chase him off now.
For the rest of the day, I was struggling with myself. The snake was out there, and it was quite likely going to eat a frog or two. Because of my standards of how I want to feel at all times (peaceful, happy, joyful), I knew something had to change. It did. I evolved. I finally got it.
What makes me so smart, and such a dictator, that I would tell a frog what it can and can not experience? Maybe the frogs are bored with me blocking natural predators from them. Maybe they’d be healthier individually and as a population with natural challenges. Maybe it’s wonderful to die by the mouth of a snake, especially when the cannabinoid system kicks in at death. Who knows? And, that’s the point…I don’t know, and it is none of my business!
Now, I am really starting to get it…I actually like snakes! They are another wonderful part of nature. If I don’t bother them, I’ll have a more complete ecosystem. I wonder who likes to eat snakes?…Maybe they’ll come around! Maybe I can get some more great nature pics…
Oh, but there is one last attachment…What about Bluey? My uncommon blue-coloured green frog. (Notice the “my” again.) Yes, Bluey is special. Yes, I love him. But should his specialness and my love for him make him any less qualified from living a full life, snakes and all? I need to let Bluey fight his own battles and live his own life.
And, finally, as close to home as my frog pond, I accept the same philosophy as I do for humans. The philosophy that I believe leads to the fastest evolution and highest good for all: Live and let live. It’s not up to me to make opinions about, dictate or control how anyone else lives…Friends, family, “foreigners”…Even Bluey.
Michele specializes in working with high performers desiring better, easier results and greater fulfillment.
Learn more about coaching with Michele here:
Life, Career and Executive Coaching with Coach Michele
Coach Michele on Facebook